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Control Dramas: How to Get Back into the Flow

When resentment takes over resulting from mind games with winners and loosers, it’s an ugly sight. Everyone looses. I’m describing the affect of control on the quality of your life, and how to break free.

ControlDramaPower dynamics do not need to over take your life. We share the planet with others but it’s not necessary to surrender your integrity to the level of hostility that force introduces into your life. Nor is control or domination an essential skill set to adopt when you need to stand in your power. There is another way.

Control dramas involve one person—or groups, organizations or whole communities—pushing against a perceived enemy to achieve a specific outcome. These kinds of drama almost always involves a hidden agenda, accompanied by passive aggressive behavior or outright aggression.

The ripple affect from such a polarized way of being can create a residual emotional trauma and a toxic environment for all involved.

Control dramas are easy to identify: One party creates a story about the other then begins to shape their reality around the drama. The goal is to perpetuate false evidence showing up as real to create shock value, a shocking tale big enough that everyone’s attention is suddenly riveted on wrong doing.

This form of illusion making is usually accompanied by an act of intimidation or a direct threat to your well being. The one holding the hammer over your head sets out to get others involved in order to fan the fire of wrong doing. The goal is to get others to point the finger at the victim so that the hidden agenda can be achieved out in full view.

Listen to any control drama story and you will find a villain and a victim. The hidden agenda is there too. All the chaos, as a result of constant spin is designed to keep the chaos kicked into high gear so that the real goal can be achieved. By the time the drama winds down, the mission will have been accomplished.

Our families, courtrooms, political halls and boardrooms are filled with people that spin stories about other people and events for the sole purpose of achieving hidden agendas and using force to ensure intended outcomes. Shame is integral to the process. Instead of holding firm to the facts, the drama king or queen bends, cheats, lies, and manipulates.

Why?

What motivates a person to abandon their basic values to fit the desired outcome?

Fear.

While control dramas are rooted in fear—plain and simple—embracing heart-centered consciousness is based on love. Love is expansive and offers another way to drop or step away from control and stay in the flow.
How to you get out of a cycle? It’s super simple but takes great humility and courage to stay the course. Here are five basic steps:

1. Once you have found yourself in the spin of the drama, it’s easy to loose your perspective. It’s impossible to get out without stepping out. Recognize when you have been lulled into the illusion and stop it right there—as in stop the story. Stop participating in the story. Stop listening to the story or repeating any part of the story to yourself or someone else.

2. Take your power back. Stop believing in the story, as in stop believing that anyone has any power over you. Stop listening, telling or even thinking about the story.

3. Let go of your need to be right. If you are the one who started it, just recant, forgive yourself and ask for forgiveness. If you have been behaving like a victim, realize the blessing of getting your wake-up call. This level of forgiveness is not required to go begging. It’s a simple matter of coming clean, and recognizing that you have fallen out of grace.

4. Get back into alignment with your heart and stop the spin doctoring. Again—stop telling the story. It takes courage and humility to trust in the greater flow of the divine but it’s essential and the only way to ultimately realizing a greater degree of balance and harmony in life.

5. Finally, stuff happens. People make different choices but flow is where it’s at and joyfully so, even in the most chaotic of life transition times, staying true to yourself is the greatest gift and will ultimately find you in the right aligned place at the right time. Be impeccable with your word and speak truth. Trust in the divine flow, and follow the synchronicity.

Finding yourself in a control drama? Take the biggest step: Let go of your need to be right, and align, align, align.

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Are You Experiencing Chaos?

Activation of Soul level Aawareness

Activation of Higher Awareness

We are moving through the crest of the wave, a great wave pattern formed from high frequencies of light, creation particles entering into the planetary grid. This frequency is propelling us for ever upward in our awareness. Our spiritual DNA comprises the very instructional codes for higher vibrational living and it’s the light body that integrates these energies into the embodied state. 

With all this activation, many of us are dredging up or getting ensnared in old control dramas.

If you are surrendering to any kind of manipulation or control, no matter how subtle or in your face dramatic, the learning is to step away or stand firm, depending on your particular learning pattern. If you have allowed others to control your life, now is the time to know that you are to take a stand in the face of adversity. If you have been the controller and have sacrificed your integrity by bullying others or outright lying to yourself and others to win at all costs, then you need to realign with your integrity and drop back into the stillness. Align with the truth of who you are.

This is one of the most critical times in the transition cycles of our time and whatever you are setting into motion right now will come back to either delight and amaze you, or put you in a perpetual loop of insanity.

This new frequency is creating a waveform that uplifts us and motivates us to more fully align with the truth of who we are. To remain in the stillness, the zero point of this waveform, is joyful and propels us into bliss. 

Tools for moving the energy: If you find distortion in your energy field or are experiencing distress, drop into the stillness. Find your center and know that, as you do, the answers are all right there just under the surface of all that chaos. Be still. Be purposeful. Hold your center. Whatever chaotic pattern you are attempting to unravel, bringing calm and peace to your emotions will help to find clarity.

This is the time to take the lead from nature. Set aside time in your day to walk, to be, to be still, to dance, or just observe nature. There is much knowing and wisdom to be gleaned as you drop into the stillness and listen.

The Amped up Energies of Mid-September

The energies are amping up and taking us to new heights. We cannot stay where we are without feeling pulled apart. Wednesday night’s conversation is all about where we are now in the process of building this new earth grid of consciousness and what to anticipate as we embrace yet more intensified levels of light for moving forward.

It’s time to get crystal clear with intention and one’s alignment with your purpose. Are you ready? New structures are forming and you are a part of the new earth grid of consciousness even as the pockets of you life would have you believing otherwise. What are these new structures and how do you recognize them when they show up?

Join the conversation:

SoulConversations200w

Wednesday, September 17

7:00 pm eastern
Live Stream Link Here:

http://new.livestream.com/accounts/715710/events/3365338 

You, as the Power Creator that You Are

Today, as I participated in a call that will be redistributed as an integrated part of a larger program offering, my talk was geared to the global shift in consciousness, yet at every turn I came back to the individual choice to be love, know love and to amplify that which is already within us. When we look outside ourselves for the answers, we have, in that moment, fallen into the abyss of mass hysteria.

No one has the answer for you but you. Look, see, know who you are. . . a very powerful creator. You are a generator of all your creations, and what you experience in this very moment represents what you have already created as a seed thought and feeling. All your creations were set into motion by both the attention you gave them and the intention in the way that you set every one of them into motion. If you don’t like what you are experiencing in your world now, drop deep inside self and shift your attention away from that lower frequency bandwidth of hate and malice and move the needle toward something more tangibly recognizable to love. Change up the feeling within you and set it back into motion with a different intention. Stop the projection of what someone is doing  to you and remember who you are. No one can do anything to you without your involvement on some real level of your awareness.  It begins and ends with you in the power position of making choice.

How we change our environment, family, work, relationship, power dynamics begins from the inside out. 

As you exercise accountability for how you are showing up in your life, know that you get to make a different choice at any time. It’s your life, your world and your intention that determines your level of inner peace and happiness. 

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